Wednesday, June 18, 2008

-Yayaaaahh

-Bad date

Just came back from a bad date, maaaaaan it was shocking haha on the plus I did meet up with her the next day, though on the badddddddddd she was not as hot as first thought and she rejected me,

care factor zerooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo

do care about the wasted petrol though

haha

let's keep moving baby

Monday, June 16, 2008

-Juggler condensed

Here's a great post by someone else who compiled all this from bitseduce,

dopeeeeeeeeeeeee

btw - look out for a bloke called Nick Sparks

pacccccccccccccccce

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Hi guys!
I want to share some of my realisations. I’ve been thinking about this for a while and I think it will help some of you.

Backstory
When I didn’t know anything about the game I was some kind of naturally funny (sarcastic) but a little bit of a nice guy (strange mix, I know). I definitely wasn’t the best seducer in the world but I had some success with women. Then I started studying the game with David D’s and Mystery’s stuff. David D didn’t help me much because I naturally was very sarcastic and Mystery Method introduced me to a lot of interesting stuff (like social proof, indifference to outcome and a lot more). But it was a huge trap. Fuck, I spend almost a year doing nothing! I did go out but I was so brainwashed by Mystery that I though that the only way to approach a girl was to say “Hey, I really got a second, but I need a female opinion. Me and my friend were talking about…” But you know what this opener seemed so weird and lame to me that I didn’t do a single approach with this opener. So it was a catch-22. It just seemed so weird to talk about some story made by another guy to get into girls panties. But I repeat I was so brainwashed that I actually laughed when I saw guys approaching girls with direct style. Fuck! This is so stupid. Ok, this is the first point.
The other point is though I didn’t approach I was constantly thinking how cool it would be to become a pickup artist, to have a stack of 300 routines for any situation. I dreamt that I would be the coolest guy in a crowd.

Visualise. Success. Now.
Then I had this big aha-moment. (This David D’s phrase always makes me laugh.) I had a great realisation when I was introduced to visualisation techniques. I wrote my goals for three months, 6, 9 and 12 months. And I started to visualise my goals every day for 10 minutes. In the “pickup” section I wrote:
- to become the best pickup artist in the city (it’s not a big one, so this goal was realistic )
But you know what? When I tried to visualise this goal I couldn’t go into much detail. This is how I realised that the most important thing in pickup is to understand what you really want. I tried to visualise how I get numbers, how I approach with jealous girlfriend opener.
The most interesting thing is that when you visualise something it will eventually come true. It just always works. So I asked myself: what do I really want in pickup? Why do I read all this stuff? If I know that what I desire will eventually come true what should I desire? In other words, what do I visualise?
I decided that I want to be natural I said to myself: “Fuck this jealous girlfriend opener! I just want to have fun with girls!” So I decided to visualise how I’m having fun with girls.
What I truly want? I just want to have multiple relationships until I meet a really great girlfriend. (Which is hard though, because the more women you have the higher your standards are.)

Juggler
Then I found out about Juggler Method. Actually I knew about it since I read The Game but I was so brainwashed by Mystery that I didn’t read much about it. This is what turned my game 180 degrees. The rest of the post is the essense of Juggler Method.
If you are new to Juggler Method then I recommend to start with his seminar:
http://bitseduce.com/details.php?id=858
Then read Juggler's Encyclopedia:
http://bitseduce.com/details.php?id=1119
(Definately read Turbine's review of Juggler's Workshop, Juggler's E-mail mini-course, SocialHitchHikers Posts and only after that How to be a PickUp Artist .)

I turned to Juggler when I realised that just being cocky/funny is not enough. Even Mystery said that the game is played in comfort. Connection is the most important part of pick-up. (It is way more important to connect than to "attract".)

So... I am really into Juggler's stuff now and can talk within hours about his method but his method is really simple.

Here are the key elements:
-focus opener (you notice what she is doing at the moment and comment on that)
-open-ended questions ("interesting questions"). The idea is to ask questions you are really interested.
-vacuum (great fucking technique). You ask an open-ended question. She doesn't put an effort. You just freeze and say nothing. By this you actually show her that you care about your question. If it still doesn't work than just relate and ask another open-ended question.
-relate (this is the key technique of the whole method). You have to relate to anything she said in I-perspective.
-reward (if she puts some effort in an interaction you have to reward her and escalate. But it should be genuine reward.)
-statement of intent (this is the shit). "Wow you are not only sexy but also a good conversationalist." You are not some MM-guy who wants to get into her panties under her radar. You are a man and not ashamed of it.
-sexual barriers. "Oh my God, I want to have sex with you right now... But of course I shouldn't have told you that because we just met." Fuck, looking back I realize that my most solid relationships were when I massively told something like this. NB: this is not a routine. This is something you say naturally.
-disqualifying yourself. Ok, in this technique Juggler went "extreme, extreme hardcore". I mean that he was always against Mystery but this technique is really against anything Mystery told you. Mystery tells you: DHV. Juggler says: only truly confident men can disqualify themselves. Yes if you feel the need to DHV than there is something wrong with your inner game.
-how to deal with shit-tests. No negs, no stupid shit. Just accept them and (!) reward her for being original/feisty/bad.
-push-pull. Good old push-pull. Mentioned by Tyler, Mystery and any pickup artist. But Juggler says: you have to end on something positive, not negative. Mystery: OMG you are french! I love you. Wait a minute at high school I had a crush on a french girl I can't even talk to you know. Juggler: I don't like blondes but for you I will make an exception. Mystery's line could easily kill connection. Juggler's phrase build's connection (and a strong one).

Are you still here?

Ok, this is a lot of info. But I want you to realise that Juggler Method is really easy! To start with you just have to keep in mind some basic things:
-ask interesting questions (use vacuum if needed)
-relate in I-perspective (that means you have to talk about your emotions and experiences)
-reward her when she puts effort into dialogue and escalate
-at one point make a statement of intent (instead of a reward)
-then use sexual barriers

Ok here is an example.

She is standing alone in a club (obviously her friends are dancing or went to the restroom).

genuine_pua: Is it fun to stand alone in the club?
she: I'm not alone!
genuine_pua: Well i'm not alone too. Actually I'm here with my ex-classmates. You know this is really cool when you meet your old friends who you havent's seen for 5 years.(relate in I-perspective) (If she relates here then you are in but in our example she doesn't. What do we do? Go and jerk off tonight, my friend. Of course, kidding. Ok she can't relate here so you just throw an open-enden question.) What do you think is the coolest thing about your best friend?
she: (she is not used to escalate that fast) Oh, I don't know...
genuine_pua: (vacuum)
now she can either ask "why are you interested?" or tell you something. We assume that she tells something because if she doesn't you just relate and ask another question.
she: Well, my friend Brittney is really passionate about her job. She is a designer.
genuine_pua: (she put an effort so you reward her and then relate.) I really like how you talk about your friend. This is cool because my friend John is... (blablabla) What is the country where you would like to spend the rest of your life? (interesting question. and remember: no transition between topics. You are the fucking alpha! Why the fuck do you need transitions?)
she: Oh, I've been to Spain last year. I had sooo much fun but I think that I wouldn't live there for the rest of my life.
genuine_pua: (So the idea is to relate to emotion) Oh, I totally understand you. I've been to... (see, the story doesn't have to be about your friend being in Spain. It has to be about your experience similar to her. NB: your story doesn't have to be ubercool it just have to be abput you and your experience. In Juggler Method all the interaction is about You and about Her. Nothing more.)
...
she: I had a friend of mine he lied to all the time. I really hate it.
genuine pua: Oh I hate liars!! But you know what? I actually have to admit that I lie sometimes to my friends about my job, I just can't help. (Ok it doesn' make any sence, I just can come up with a good example right now. See how I just disqualified myself? Agreewith her, than admit that she can actually blame you too. This is the essence of disquualifying yourself.)
...
she: I was in Spain last year and that crazy story happened to me ...(emotional story)
genuine pua: wow you are adventurous. I think that's what makes you really sexy. (statement of intent as a reward. But it is not just stupid "You are hot".)
...
genuine_pua: you know what I really want to do now? I want to do you on this deskboard, but of course I didn't say that because there are a lot of people here. (Sexual barrier. This is fucking shit. This is similar to Shock and Awe.)

Ok. It's a long post anyway so I have to tell you last words on Juggler Method. It is not actually a method, it is a way of interacting with anyone (you don't have to put sexual barriers when talking to your boss though.)

Almost any new product now is some sort of recycled Mystery Method. Mehow, Brad P, RSD (ok last 2 came with their own great ideas but anyway straucture is the same no matter what they say). They put to much emphasis on being cocky and funny, sex worthy, cool and all that stuff. When Juggler teaches you: don't be cool, be warm. Dont be cocky and funny, be sweet and funny. Don't be an asshole. Does it mean that you have to be a nice guy? Well the term "nice guy" is totally misundersood. Women do love nice guys but they hate guys who want to deceive them and get into their panties by giving them flowers.

So the most important word in Juggler Method is "genuine". Don't kill the connection by using cocky/funny (well you can use it but as described above). Build a genuine connection with a woman and you will be priceless.

And here are 4 great exercises.
1) Word association. Pick a word and tell a personal story that comes to your mind when you say this word. It doesn't have to be a great fucking story. It just has to be about you and genuine. If you jerked off in that story don't feel embarassed. Tell about that. Only truly confident men can do that. When I started to use Juggler Method this exercisei really helped me. Because it teaches you the essential skill of Juggler Method (relate and be genuine in your story). When you just start you can't come up with a story for a long time (like 20-30-40 seconds). But then you realize that it is actually fucking easy. Just visualise the word and then tell a story.
2) Genuine reward. Practice to say "I really like you, you are so ..."
3) Practice to ask interesting open-ended questions.
4) Last one but not least. Progress starts when you have clear goals. Write in great detail who you want to be in 90 days.

Hope it helps.

Of course, it may seem messed. But I think that the one who seeks will find. It is probably basic for some guys, but I think that a lot of guys will find it helpful and will start to read about Juggler Method. Just to tired to rewrite it now.

-Guy Ritchie

Tuesday, June 10, 2008

-0001 Quote

This one is from Paul Janka

"What killed the warrior? Hesitation."

Refer's to just going for it, dive the fuck in.

Sweeeeeeet

-0002 Note

Keep calm, everything else including the witt will fall into place.

-0001 Note

Want to incorporate more verbal witt rather than blatent ignoring that seems to be in vogue.

A Paul Janka straight walk off mid sentence is pretty dope though.

Daytime action

Inspired by some Paul Janka, I went out today in the city for some daytime action.

Met up with my boy Hxxx and Jxxx and we went stomping the street, starting off down xxxxx street towards the xxxxx beer cafe saw a hunnie in all black, business type, I turned around and...

"Hey you're cute and I thought I'd say hello"

That's what I thought I said but I kinda stumbled it haha (I'm more of a night terroist, that's why I'm working the daytime baby), nevertheless baby girl was smiling and it clearly had her brightened up by the one off day time approach, she had a boyfriend though. I left with both of us smiling

I was pleased with the approach and continued down xxxxx street. I saw two dancers I know who happened to be hanging outside the xxxxx cafe parked up.

"Hey Cxxx, whats happening"
"Hey what are you up to? What are you doing here?"
"Ahh just doing my art thing, job hunting so you graduated yet?"
"Nah I have a semester left, hey show me your folio"

Cxxx is beautiful but her friend who was right there is especially gorgeous too, I don't like using props but having my actual design shit on me IS me. They where both into it and after more idle chit chat that was kinda status based "Oh I know r&b singers who need designs" rah rah rah. I was able to get the number of Cxxx's especially gorgeous friend. Her name's Pxxx, it's more work based honestly but I reckon it's a firm foot in the door towards snizzy!=D I like having my design gear because I actually use it and it's only me doing it and it's not half the fucking city using the same lines. Juuuuuuuuuust me baby.

Especially happy with that and we continued on, let a few hunnies go by without stepping for a long whileeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee including a pink hair hunnie I especially wanted to go for in the local library, till finally the end of the day in a bookstore and;

"Hey I like your hair, you're an art type right." I said smiling
She looked shocked with the approach
"Haha yeh."
She genuinely looked interested in fact she was a deer in the headlights and I worked it more with idle art chit chat (that's the section we where in), then I went in too early and went for a direct close
"So I stepped to you cos you where pretty cute, can I pinch your number?", saying this here was the wrong place for it and I got the "I have a boyfriend but thanks" She was genuinely flattered and smiling. Made her day! In hindsight should of continued with the comfort

Anyway that ends a first real good daytime action stint haha. I'm going to make this more natural rather than organising days to go for a "day game".

I like it because;
-No competition
-No crowd of PUA's opening constantly burning the group of people
-No angry blow out's and you brighten up the girls day because she feels flattered, rather than a nightclub vicious blow out, this shit is well out the blue.
-In my beautiful city there is just as much gorgeous girls doing there thing in the daytime then in a club - Sahh-weet!

What I need to do
-More practise
-I like to step more, but it'll always only be towards those I'm generally interested in, even though I may of been cumbersome here I'm passed diving in constantly at every female for practise. for real, for real
-Exude the same calmness I show in clubs, bring it here to the daytime
-Keep calm with that solid confidence, and that brash humour
-Step to her, there's always beautiful women around

Persia in Asia

Rightio on Saturday at the club just passed I saw this goddess so I step,

"Hey pretty girl, I love you."
She gives me the raised eyebrows
"So why you standing here all alone?"
"I'm jus waiting for my friends, umm can you go over there."
"Why would I want to go over there, when you're over here?" I say calmly with my hands in my pockets
She laughs and plays with her phone, shuffles away slightly and I'm standing in the same spot still rocking my hands in my pockets,
"So where you from and whats your name?"
"Why do you want to know my name?"
"Because you're gorgeous, why wouldn't I want to know your name?"
She shuffles back in and she tells me she's persian and suddenly there is this air of electricity she continues with,
"You know you should probably know I don't like guys..."
"What a coincidence that's awesome, I don't like guys either."
"Haha! So what's your name?"
"I asked first haha"

Then suddenly, in comes my cousin, what the fuck??

"No! zib, this is my cousin haha"
"Aww shit?" Me and the persian goddess say,

My cousin then tells persia how my mums her godmother (insert boring how we are related family tree convo that leads too;)

"Sorry about that love haha, catch ya later"

Can't win em all