-DYD Deep Inner Game 01 - 02 Cont...

Notes continued...Goes from DYD Disc 01 to 02

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-Be in the present moment

FOUR PARTS OF PSYCHOLOGY
1. Personal Boundary
2. Decision making power
3. Intellect (Your Ideas - from this comes time management)
4. Emotional energy - Using stressful emotions such as anxiety as a use rather than a scourge (Mastering your self esteem)

Happiness is high self esteem
Success is Reaching a goal (See the bright side Edison said he found 999 successful ways of how not to make a light bulb) - persistence

-Durable fulfilment

-Using the four parts of your psychology can solve your problems

PERSONAL BOUNDARIES
-If you don't let go of your problems you'll suffer

-Aim for a healthy mature personal boundary (more on this)

Suffering is burning your emotional energy on things you can't control.

-Take notice on when you burn energy on things you can't control

Where I suffer
1. Letting anything that becomes volatile get me down and affect me very passively
2. Not speaking about it and having no idea how too
3. Tenseness

-You need a solid identity - your boundary creates your identity - have preferences

-Saying "No" defines a solid boundary

-Women test to see if they can test the man and affect his boundaries - have a strong firm confident resolve however don't become selfish let those in with your doors but open those doors yourself from the inside of your self

SELF ESTEEM (Emotion)
INTERLECT
DECISION MAKING these are all your inner treasure

OBSERVING EGO - Practise saying "No"

-You want to build a healthy personal boundary
-The rejection makes you stronger if you don't care

-Stress is either a hurt, a loss or both

-Nobody makes us be anything and when you say "should" you’re trying to control the uncontrollable in others

-When we regret things we suffer

-Jealousy is suffering
-Revenge is suffering (Wishing you controlled the past with your anchor)

-ENERGY IS THE MOST VALUABLE AND SCARCE RESOURCE

-Try not to dwell and let go - negative energy into positives - flow to transform

-When you're an adult you have your own will and determination

-You're not the whole world for anyone to solve
-The irony is that having a strong personal boundary will help other people around you

MASTER THIS TO STOP THIS
PROBLEM DHV
There are 3 Problems of Mood

1. BIOLOGY<--Hurts Chem.(Serotonin)--2.PSYCHOLOGY<--Regress (Psych goes backward)--3.STRESS

-Biology is your brains hardware. To fix that you need an artificial med example anti-depressants or valium
-To fix a psychology problem you need education/therapy. This is your brains software
-With stress you have to make the decision if you are going to let if affect you or not, be strong to just let it go (I know it's hard)
-If you do let it effect you - your growth goes backward and you regress and if you don't get the necessary education/therapy you go back further into your biology and it hurts your chemistry and your serotonin goes down the tube.

AHA!!!!!!!! Just drop the idea of me trying to entertain everyone - if they are they is - if they ain't well...... who cares.

You can't use medicines to fix your psych problems or your stress problems. Like the guy who needs valium because his girlfriend uses a lot of drugs and it makes him upset having to deal with her constant mess of her running into problems with police and fights.

HAVING A THICK SKIN BOUNDARY - CAN BE JUST AS IMATURE/ SENSITIVE THIN SKIN (HOLES IN YOUR BOUNDARY)

THE MOST MATURE DESIGN IS A BOUNDARY WITH DOORS - doors you alone open and close

Observing ego - a mature/tough custom distinction

-Decisions you have to make come from within your boundaries - DECISIONS ARE THE DEFINITION OF LIFE

YOU CAN BE
Destructive - Win/Lose - Feeling as though you have to battle to gain one up man ship over someone

Or

Constructive - Win/Win - Letting those around you trade off with the rewards from within your personal boundary. You use your doors to let people in and out and have some of your inner gold

-Once something is in your personal boundary - it's your problem

There is currency to the aspects of your personal boundary
Rewarding someone/trading off will result in the following

Lending your boundary will give someone strength
-With decisions it'll cost you some freedom
-With intellect it'll cost you some time
-With emotion/self esteem it'll cost you some love

THESE TRADES EXIST EVEN IN RELATIONSHIPS

YOU'RE GETTING BAD DEALS EVERYWHERE IF YOU'RE A WUSSY AND AFRAID TO SPEAK OUT - Watch the balance with indifference though!

-Be strong

-What is value?

-When you where a young boy saying yes to everything was cute and created a bond between you and your mother but to become a man saying NO causes much more respect
-All of this psychology is invisible but real

AHA!!! Don't worry about your communication skills these will fix themselves as you express yourself and communicate more and educate and write

-Interdependence is what you want to achieve - the ability to be able to go away without her turning into a neurotic mess and coming back to life as a couple with our boundaries as one again

There are two types of STRESS
1. Hurt which creates anger
2. Loss which creates anxiety
-Some of these traumas you can't avoid but what is all this? Stress, hurt, loss, anger, anxiety? It's all energy - negative energy - you can turn this around

-Wounds are needed. For a man they are valuable to grow - special knowledge (Troy story (Hercules stolen bow and arrow)) - AN ASPECT OF GROWTH
-All those bad things you had had happen happened for good reason

-Success means your boundary is bigger but that will not necessarily mean your self esteem will be better.